Rich men dating younger women
I got a cheeky anonymous email recently: "I'd like to commission an article on the plight of sexually invisible middle aged men.
"Young women look at me and they see someone who looks like their Dad," my friend Sean said.
"They may still smile, but there's no flirtation or desire behind it." Women over 35 often report the same thing.
The difference is that most 40-something women aren't lamenting the fact that they don't turn the heads of college boys.
Many of them would just like to turn the heads of guys their own age.
Not so for their male peers, many of whom are busy chasing substantially younger women.
Middle-aged men don't seem to value validation from women their own age as much as they value it from women 10 to 25 years younger. It was borne out in the now-infamous results of the 2010 OK Cupid survey, which found that in the world of online dating, men seemed almost universally interested in pursuing substantially younger women.
Men's desired age range for potential matches was dramatically skewed against their chronological peers.
A typical 42 year-old-man, for example, would be willing to date a woman as young as 27 (15 years younger than himself) but no older than 45 (just three years older.) And as Ok Cupid discovered, men regularly devoted most of their attention to women at the very youngest end of their stated range — and frequently messaged female members who were well beneath that.
When I sent out a request for stories about this phenomenon, I heard many like this, from Veronica, age 37: "When I was first dating online in my late 20s, I got hundreds of emails a week.
Eight years later, even though my pictures are better and my accomplishments more substantial, I get only a quarter as many.
Most of the guys I hear from are over 50." Women in their 20s, including those who set firm upper-age limits, report being inundated by messages from men who are far older than that stated preference.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating