Resident dating med student

Residents have crazy things happen to them, often multiple crazy things on the same day. At least then you know what your resident is talking about, a little bit. Your resident does not want to perform physical exams at Thanksgiving. Recognize sleep deprivation for what it is, and not a larger sign of relationship trouble. Your resident is not trying to be difficult, or selfish, or lazy. It is likely very frustrating for your resident to watch Grey's Anatomy or its television siblings. Don't make that difficult by complaining it's late, there are dinner plans, and there is no time to shower.

Your resident probably doesn't know enough to actually help, even if he or she wanted to -- and, most likely, he or she doesn't want to. But that knee pain, or those warts -- tell them to see their actual doctor, and hold the questions. That's not an excuse, but understand that on the rare day off, maybe 13 hours of sleep is what your resident needs, even more than a delicious brunch that you even made a reservation for. Indulge your resident's use of the pause button on the DVR when watching shows with medical elements.

Your resident is not automatically your family's new free doctor.

Last night I had a dream that I was dating two different men. Last year I dated occasionally, but ultimately I couldn't devote the time needed to develop a real relationship. However, it seems to be working for some people in my class.

The first I took to a friend's wedding, the second I took to a dinner party at Oprah's! Most of the days' hours are spent intensely (or not-so-intensely) studying, so when I find myself with "free time," all I want to do is relax. Many in my second-year medical school class have been dating for some time.

(She makes one mean mango martini.) As I said, in my dreams. I'll watch one of my Netflix movies (the three I currently have have been sitting here for 5 weeks), I'll walk to the park and just sit and listen to the cascading fountain, I'll do some light reading, or I'll sleep. Some became engaged during first-year and were married this past summer, others have been in long-term relationships for many years, and a small group have been dating within the class or between classes.

In the comments, someone asked for a post with tips for non-medical people to keep in mind when dating residents.

If they are working a late shift or overnight, you win huge points if you offer to bring them food.

Infinite points if you recognize that even though they tell you they can come down to meet you and grab the food at a certain time, something might come up, and they might be delayed.

They would rather be eating the food you have brought for them.

If, on the other hand, your resident doesn't want to talk about Patient Smith, or Patient Anyone, don't push. Non-medical things are interesting to residents, especially after a 27 hour shift talking only about medicine. Also understand if the last thing your resident wants to watch on a day off are shows about medicine.

But if your resident wants to talk about Patient Smith, and wants reassurance that he or she didn't accidentally kill Patient Smith, try and listen. People in law or finance or medicine or anything technical. If you are dating a resident, try and read some stuff about residency. Understand the frustration, and let your resident vent for fifteen seconds before continuing the show.

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