Paul washer dating advice

In my dealings with the topic biblical courtship, I have found that, to my disappointment and often discouragement, there seems to be a lot of opinion but regrettably, a real lack of clarity.

Reading many articles, talking with other believers, and being a believer who is currently in a courtship myself, I have found myself wrestling vigorously with the different ideologies which are flying about in answer to the following question: How do we, as followers of Jesus Christ, engage in courtship in a biblical way, a way in which honours and glorifies God, leaving both parties obedient to the Word?

I was fortunate enough to have an interesting conversation with a woman by the name of Rowina Seidler, who has written many articles reflecting on this very issue.

We've come together on this piece to hopefully bless, edify and implore other believers to assess their current courtships, implement principles prior to entering into one, and lastly, to move from desiring to fit into the ideals of men and look to what is taught in the Word of God.

Roxanne: What is your definition of biblical courtship?

Rowina: Different people define biblical courtship in different ways.

There is no agreed definition but here is my attempt at one: biblical courtship is the period of time in which a man who is romantically interested in a woman pursues her in an intentional way with the hope of marrying her.

The man and woman attempt to not stir up each other's love prematurely and thus do not act like a couple or as if they belong to each other.

The man treats the woman as a sister in all purity.

Their aim is to reach a wise decision, with the help of their families and Christian community, on whether they should marry or not while behaving in a way that honours God.

The hope is that whether things work out or not, each person is left undamaged.

Roxanne: That is an interesting definition and one that draws on Scriptures such as 1 Timothy 5:1-2, "Rebuke not an elder, but entreat him as a father, and the younger men as brethren; the elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters with all purity." From your previous articles, I can see that you have been trying to correct a particular kind of relationship that you feel is prominent in the church.

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