Paraplegic men dating

"We talked about everything; there was no taboo," he said.

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"One thing he did for me that was really helpful was give me some materials to read that talked about sex after SCI, the actual bladder and bowel stuff and how that works," she said.

Reading it helped her come to terms with it on her own, and gave her specific questions to ask him later.

David has had tetraplegia (quadriplegia) for 10 years.

February 14, 2006 Dating is hard enough in the best of times; after a spinal cord injury, insecurities about body image and doubts about one's desirability as a romantic partner can become a major concern.

At our annual forum on dating and relationships-which fell on Valentine's Day this year-several people with SCI shared their personal experiences of coming to grips with their changed selves and making their way in the world of dating and mating after injury.

When Brad * became paralyzed from the chest down after a motorcycle accident in 1991, he went in an instant from being "close to 6 foot 4 and 215 4 feet 5 inches( in a wheelchair)." After leaving the hospital, he worried about what people saw when they looked at him and what assumptions they might be making about him-did they see him, or did they see a disabled person?"I didn't know how to react to myself, let alone how to react to somebody who was reacting to me," he remembered.Getting comfortable with himself was an important step in being able to feel confident about dating.Brad's wife of seven years, Amy, had never met anybody in a wheelchair before him."On our first date I knew instantly she was the one I wanted to be with," he recalled.As questions came up about what the future together might look like, Brad found that communicating openly about all the fears and questions they both had was the only way to make it work.

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