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However, he was so persistent and romantic that I finally gave in and started to have what I thought was a relationship with him.
I felt horrible because I had fallen for him and he didn’t care much about us (in fact he did state that we were incompatible and that he couldn’t imagine a future with me).
That’s why six weeks ago I started dating other guys.
I didn’t tell the guy about this, which was totally wrong. –Rose Rose, Although your question is very similar to this one, which I wrote a few years back, I wanted to tackle it and see if I could shed some light on your situation.
He wouldn’t tell people he was my boyfriend and he wouldn’t hold hands with me on the street. He says I cheated on him and that I’m a slut and things like that. I’ve now realized he did love me but he didn’t have the guts to admit it or to show it. I’m desperate and don’t know what to do because I feel I’ve lost a great guy just because of a big misunderstanding. Quick, let’s play a game called “What’s my emotion? Bemused – Because literally half of my questions sound something like this: “I met this guy and the chemistry was really great and we slept together and I thought he was my boyfriend but now he’s acting distant and doesn’t seem to want a relationship. ” Pity – Because even though this guy wouldn’t call or text you, see you more than once a week, commit to you as a boyfriend, and finally called you a slut for dating other men, you’re STILL delusional enough to think he’s a “great guy”, that you “cheated” on him and that he “loved you” after a few weeks of “dating”.
A week ago a friend of his told him that he had chatted me up and that I had somehow responded. ” How it works is that I give you a choice of the emotions I could possibly be feeling after reading your question and you guess which one is the most accurate one. Anger – Because you need a dating coach to tell you what is patently obvious. Good men call you regularly to make plans because they’re excited about you.
Your guy is not a keeper, you didn’t blow it, and the fact that you’re in great pain over this “loss” drives me absolutely crazy. Frustration – Because this situation is so very common and it’s so hard for most women to distinguish their feelings for their boyfriend from his feelings for you. Good men don’t freak out if you’re seeing other men – especially if you’re not exclusive.
What does he need to do to convince you that he’s not a good guy? You dated a man who, like many men (including good men), look for sex first and figure out the relationship stuff later.
I’ve written volumes about this phenomenon and don’t think there’s much to add to that discussion.
Men feel attraction, act on the attraction, but don’t determine whether they like you as a person or are emotionally ready for a relationship until AFTER. What’s not common is the amount of psychological abuse you seem to be willing to put yourself through in order to win back this douchecanoe.
He’s done NOTHING to earn your loyalty and EVERYTHING to hurt you. That is, I would be angry if anger were the emotion I was feeling in this hypothetical game.
I’m not going to try to play shrink to figure out how low your self-esteem has to get for you want to win back a psychotic, selfish, abusive commitmentphobe, but let’s say that what happened to you should have driven you far, far away from this guy.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating